On that day, I went to the funeral of my friend, Naomi.
This meant a lot for me. It actually affected my trip, and would my whole life.一週間前、空港で公衆の面前なのに涙が止まらなかった。
Her funeral was the somewhat life event I had never imagined. It is my third funeral after my grand fathers. First one of my friend, of course.
Naomi was the one of the cutest girls from our private girls-only high school. Not like her doll’s looking, she was always a bit ahead of any other girls. While everybody was into Johnny’s TV talents, she was into American pop music at the age of 14. She stayed 1year in Florida for an exchange program at 17. Just 6 months after getting back to Japan, she passed the good university in Japan.
But only a half-year, she left the school and flew to Hawaii. Thinking back now, I assume she wanted be with her American boyfriend. At that age of 19, it was quite a decision I guess. She gave up her bachelor in her mother country. I don’t know if that was tough for her or not, but now I am sure she had a strong heart and strong belief, and love within the relationship.
I do not know what exactly when she moved and got married in San Diego, but after re-connected on facebook, we had a fairly amount of facebook conversation. Just like other friends, even if she/he lives apart but if you are commenting on the status each other it is like they are close to you.
Then it happened. The weekend I heard about her I could not think about any other.
Her funeral convinced me to recognize the fact: she is not in this world. It still makes me wanna cry when I think of the tears of her sister and her husband in sorrow, and her father’s last greeting to her ”Bye bye, Nao-chan.”
And of course, how beautiful her face was with the white and pink flowers.
Many of us, including me were writing on facebook wall that night.
“Thank you for letting us realize the importance of someone close to us.”
“Life is short. Well, life can be short and we never know.”
“We never forget you.”
It is not the plastic words. All was from bottom of our heart.
She made us realize how our life is blessed, how we should treat our family and friends, and one we love.”
Also, very ironically, she gathered so many friends from high school. Many of us are now reconnected on facebook event of her funeral. I knew she wanted to take her husband to our high school, by her comment on my photo.
Especially to me, I learned two from her style of life.
1. Any moment never comes back.
Seeing facebook, I take granted for my friends being alive somewhere on the earth, and believe that our life come across somewhere, someday. But You never know when you can see each other. Well, you do not wanna be desperate all the time, but better be aware that LIFE CAN BE SHORT.
2. Follow your heart.
Her decision-make was very clear. As far as I know her life, she did something different from others twice: Studying abroad at high school and choosing boyfriend, not school. Maybe it was a difficult decision, I don’t know, but now I respect her doing so.
She may be laughing, she may think it is too much, but I leaned those two anyway.
Her husband Shaun is so nice to let me posted those photos. I believe her life should be known as well as her great look.
She integrated Tokyo and Southern Californian style on fashion. I loved her style. It just shows how she was: Innocent but gorgeous, playful but elegant.
Wish I could comment on her new picture, and talk to her again.
We miss you. I am thinking of you.